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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The wait is going to be tough.  We are trying to finalize apps now.  Groan.[/quote]

Get a hobby.  If you put this much emphasis on the application and OUTCOMEs it will put extra stress on your kid.  You aren't actually helping.  Go see "Race to Nowhere" and you'll see how all the devoted "snowplow parents" are making their kids unhappy and neurotic.[/quote]

He does not know the difference.  We have not even told him we are applying to schools.  Not really a concept for a K kid.  As for hobbies, I have a few, but most are put aside while I perform the duties of my two full-time jobs (one of which is parenting).[/quote]

Okay, it's good that you're not putting this on your child.  Not trying to be harsh here, but why the focus on one school?  Is it logistically related -- that you have a child there now and life will be a pain in the neck with kids at multiple schools?  If you think it's a great fit, can you be open to the idea that kindergarten is generally a joyful time and your child will have a great experience at school, not just "the school"?  Or is a special needs situation where most schools can't fit?

Honestly, unless it is a situation where your child has severe special needs, everything else can be worked out.  If there's a school that's a better fit, apply out at 6th or 7th or 9th grade.  It's healthy for kids to have some changes and make some new friends, and if there are friends in the neighborhood or through outside activities (or summer camp) that are a constant, even better.  If it's a logistical pain in the neck, yes, that is a huge drag but won't last forever -- you can re-apply down the road, or work out some good carpooling arrangements that make things a little easier.

Your feelings are your feelings, so people telling you not to be anxious or that it is dumb to be anxious won't make it go away, but if you would LIKE to be less anxious/worried you can work through some of these things by thinking of practical alternatives.[/quote]

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