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[quote=Anonymous][quote]I have seen her emotionally and verbally abuse him. I have seen her lose her temper and call him all kinds of names. I have seen her tell him he is useless and worthless and tear a strip off of him. If she does that in front of others, I have no doubt she does more at home. We have talked to her about it a few times when it has been very public but all that did was make it worse for my brother at home and he asked us to just ignore her anger when we see it. She makes many demands of him that we see - she is always ordering him around, telling him what to do or not to do and she expects him to wait on her hand and foot. He is very passive with her, saying and doing whatever she wants him to say or do. [/quote]

18:36 here.  I hope when this done in front of you - especially in front of your or your brother's kids - you call your SIL on it.  You can't control what your SIL does in private but you can control (to a point) what you and the kids witness.  From a child's perspective, I can tell you that witnessing this done to your loved one can be as damaging (or more) as being the direct recipient.  It's important for kids to know that this behavior is not the norm and that there are people with the strength to push back.  I don't recall if you mentioned the ages of your brother's kids but I hope they know they can call you anytime and you'll pick them up.  Knowing they can do that can be so reassuring.

Something is wrong with your brother.  I don't mean that in a snarky way but his thinking is messed up.  My mother had thinking like that.  I know part of it is because he's in the midst of it and can't see how eff'd up it is.  I'm sure part of it is depression.  I don't know if you can help him with it but as a PP suggested, going to see an attorney and developing a plan could do wonders.  Your SIL can't take the kids out of the country without your brother's permission.  She's twisting information to manipulate your brother.  I'm sure you know that but that your brother is buying into it is another indication of how messed up his thinking is.[/quote]

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