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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP is indeed interfering.  I can bet that if you analyzed OP's childhood, you'd find dysfunction that manifested in OP and in her siblings in different ways.

OP's husband subconsciously likes to be controlled and most likely stays away from conflict.  I've seen this 1000 times over in friends who grew up with controlling parents.

They either control or like to be controlled.  It's all a power struggle.

OP makes her sibling out to be the victim, but again, if he allows himself to be placed in that role, it's not exactly his wife's fault then, is it?

She needs to mind her own business b/c she has NO control over her brother's choices.[/quote]

Wow. So what if genders were reversed, would you still think OP was interfering? Women can be emotionally abusive, and giving OP the benefit of the doubt, that sounds like the situation here.  The really hard part is the kids - if the wife is controlling/ borderline with the husband, then she will be abusive with the kids too. It is so hard to know what do do in these cases because divorce may not protect the kids from her. He needs counseling and to make sure he is always his kids' protector - which means he has to stop catering to the wife.[/quote]

PP's excuse making is terrifying. I grew up in an abusive and controlling home - I do not control others, and I don't like to be controlled. All relationships require a reciprocal exchange - all healthy relationships, at least. Taking advantage of someone else's childhood (or one's own) is no excuse for abusive behavior. I agree that if the genders were reversed, pp's tone would probably be different. [/quote]

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