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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, if she found FT work would she be earning enough to pay for the childcare? It not, there is no point at all in pushing her to.[/quote]

Why would you only count childcare expenses against her salary?[/quote]

Not the PP, but it's just a matter of math.  If the DW goes to work FT you have to give up whatever income she makes that has to cover daycare.  If she stays home, you should not be paying for day care.

OP full time daycare for a  preschooler as of August 2013 where I live was $1100 a month.  You will have two under K age?  Plus you have to gross up the math to include the income taxes you pay to make that $2200 to pay your daycare provider.

Honestly, it is probably best for your relationship and your finances if you just let her SAH. But I would put my foot down about expenses.  If she is going to SAH then her job includes coupon clipping, meal preparation, and otherwise reducing the household budget. Moving to a smaller place you can afford goes without saying.

I would recommend you approach this gently, lovingly.  "Since it seems like the job market is still tough, and since daycare for two kids is so expensive, it seems like it might make more sense for you to SAH until the kids are in elementary school  What do you think dear?  OK, but we both need to understand, we really will need to get a smaller house for a few years that we can afford on one salary.  It's OK; it will only be for a few years".

Can you rent out your current home and buy or rent a smaller place?  That way you can move back if/when the kids are older and the house is more affordable. Also if the market keeps going up, you can sell it later.  [/quote]

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