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[quote=Anonymous]I think I'm more old-fashioned than other PPs.  I'd be upset just like OP.  For two reasons, the first, that I thought my DH was on the same page as me re strip clubs, and the second (and more importantly), about the lying.

Due to a pre-marriage event, we have a pre-marital deal that my DH won't go to strip clubs (which he's fine with, he finds them embarrassing anyways).

The problem in this situation is your DH is the guy in charge of the party.

Ok the lying, I think you can separate this out here and work on it.  I think it's the easier of the two things to deal with (I see how this thing could have morphed into a situation where he started lying, so I don't think it's the end of the world, but you guys have to reestablish that honesty trumps his fear of you getting mad at him). 
But his paramount loyalty should be with you, not his friend, and that's why I can see OP getting upset.

I'd have a calm discussion with him and possibly, put up front that you're tabling the "what to do about this party" discussion until after this discussion about reestablishing your lines of honest communication, trust, and loyalty.

Now what to do with the party.  It's in July…he can hand it over to someone else to plan.  You will need to give him permission to throw you under the bus. He can laugh and just say he's got a ball-n-chain and she's highly pregnant and hormonal and that's just the way it's gotta be.  Or he can bow out later due to your pregnancy and put someone else in charge.  Or he goes but excuses himself.  There might be some other solution; see what HE can come up with.[/quote]

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