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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm Indian, and was considered a major slacker by my family and our circle of friends because I majored in English and chose to write for blogs and magazines for a living. I'll only redeem myself if I get a book deal or if I start an amazing blog out of all this.

The Indian community can be very demanding and judgmental - everyone has extremely high standards of success and push the kids to achieve or surpass that. There is also a lot of love and nurturing, of course, but one thing I like about "western" parenting is that there is more emphasis on doing what you love, less emphasis on status/prestige/power.[/quote]

[b]This has more to do with immigrant parents in general who value security very highly.  I think that will change as there are more Indian-American kids raised by parents who grew up here and who have the financial security that their grandparents craved[/b].  I know lots of people who wanted to go into XYZ field and didn't. I'm sure they will support their kids if they want to.

I am Indian, and my parents were the typical Indian/Asian parents. I don't intend to raise my kids with all that stress...a good work ethic, yes, but DC is stressful enough.  When I look at leaders in most any field, there are plenty of non-Asians whose parents likely didn't make them read at 3, know multiplication tables at 5, etc. etc. In my book, it's all about creating a home where learning and hard work are valued.  LOL, but ask me how I feel again when my kid is the only Indian not in the school spelling bee! [/quote]

Agree.  It's not about being Indian or Chinese, it's about being someone who had the gumption to pick up and move around the world.  And yes, valuing security very highly.  My parents were dirt poor when they arrived in this country and worked manual labor jobs, despite their masters degrees back home (which they earned after a lifetime of extreme poverty and hunger).  My parents didn't pressure me a lot, but I would understand if they did.  Can you imagine clawing yourself out of poverty, and then watching your kid throw away her opportunity for education? I want my kids to do well, too, but I don't have the same firsthand knowledge of being poor that my parents did. We weren't rich or even middle class (certainly not be DCUM standards) but we always had food, running water and electricity. [/quote]

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