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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This comes up over and over again on these boards. Here is my take on your situation:

1. It does seem a little rude to say they can only stay for a few days when they will be flying cross country.

2. In my opinion you should propose the following: parents stagger their visits and can stay with you. You set very clear guidelines ahead of time though that they will not be traditional guests - you will absolutely not be catering to them. And you expect them to help out a great deal if they are staying with you during such a challenging time. If they are not up for helping, they stay in a hotel and only come by briefly to visit. [/quote]

I'm sorry, but telling someone that they won't be traditional guests doesn't necessarily mean they won't be needy and demanding.

OP, stand firm.  Just practice saying "No."  It's important to set boundaries now, because it will set a precedent for the future.  If they see they can nag you into submission now, then every year from now on, they will be doing the same thing.

Boundaries.  Just tell them that this is the way you want it.  They can do what they want, but you aren't up for hosting people.

I don't understand why inlaws or parents think they can make demands and invite themselves to your home.  It's ridiculous.  I wouldn't tolerate it.[/quote]

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