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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP 17:37- Thank you so much for validating my feelings in a way that no one... and I mean no else has ever done.  I haven't talked about this outside of close family (I'm embarrassed) that wants to deny the problem.  Even DH takes the kids over and doesn't watch them every second. It infuriates me but DH can't ever see bad in another person. IL's understand to an extent but I think they think I might be overreacting.  Dad can be very charming when he wants.  I interact with my dad very, very infrequently even though he lives so close.  I'm perceived as the difficult one. I guess I've decided I could live with that over the possible alternative.

After I first told him kids were off limit alone, dad and wife wanted to take them to 100 per person kids show and these are the same people who will forget kids birthdays etc... It was like they were trying to do anything to get me to break my rule but they didn't.  It hurts because I would love more than anything to have a normal family and let him watch my kids- but as a mom I need to protect them.  Both of my kids are young but as they get older and can walk to dad's (he bought his house after me) are home alone I will worry.  I dream of moving across the country.

Even though DC's are young they know they are no allowed to be alone with my dad.  I've been as explicit as I could given their ages that grandad has had issues in the past and we need you to be safe and while grandad can be nice we aren't sure he is safe.  [b]My DD mentioned this to him while I wasn't around [/b]and he told her that your mom can be mean spirited.

I can't cut him off completely.  He has serious boundary issues in other areas too but seeing him once a month for 10 minutes is okay.  He is selfish most of time but he can be charming too.[/quote]

Wait. How did that happen?[/quote]

DD was playing in our yard and he walked over.[/quote]

The kids know they are supposed to come in when they see him.  DD was probably just explaining why she had to go inside.[/quote]

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