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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you did nothing wrong by running his name through google. Although I personally don't like to do that before a first date, this is the age of information and everyone should assume that their potential dates will see whatever information is posted publicly about them on the internet.

In your position, the arrest for pot would mean nothing to me (I also support full legalization) but multiple DUIs would be a big red flag. I'd want to look at how many there were, in what kind of succession (3 in 3 months? maybe it was a dark time in his life, I'd go on the date. But 3 in 3 years? That shows consistent problems with alcohol/safety/decision making and I'd probably not.), and how long ago the most recent arrest was. If it was 4-5+ years past, I'd go on the date. I wouldn't bring up the google results but I'd steer the conversation in such a way as to try and ascertain his current drinking habits (IMO someone with multiple DUIs should be abstaining almost entirely from alcohol, exceptions made for a single drink at a wedding, for example). I'd use my impression from that conversation to determine whether or not this was a deal breaker or not, and if it was, I would be honest about it with him at that point.[/quote]

This is really good advice. prodding the convo in a way to see their response is a good method.[/quote]

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