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[quote=Anonymous]I'm divorced now, but before the divorce, we traveled a lot to see family. In terms of who saw whose family more, it was probably me (we lived in the same town as my mom for the first few years we were together, my family was more willing to come visit us than was his family).

You've got 2 issues going on. One is an issue of money, which is pretty clear cut to me. A family of 4 cannot spend close to $5000 on plane tickets multiple times a year. My mom now lives on the west coast, and "cheap" tickets to see her are around $500/each. Now that DD is old enough to require her own seat, we are lucky if we can go once a year (2 people, $500 plane tickets, $0 in other expenses = your $1000/yr travel budget). Does your husband realize that by insisting that you fly to see his family as a family 4x a year, he is spending $20,000 on plane tickets alone (I assume there are also other expenses because it's never actually $0 in other expenses)?

Your other issue is a family parity issue. He feels like his family is taking a backseat to yours and he misses them. There are many ways to fix that problem. Regular Skype/phone calls. Them coming to visit you all. Maybe meeting everyone somewhere in the middle for a DH's-family-vacation. Either way, it sounds like it's pretty important that you pay some attention to the emotional need that he has that is not being met. You don't have to spend $20,000/yr to do that.[/quote]

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