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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That's stupid. [b]I don't see anything wrong with you wanting to host[/b]. You are making a generous gesture. They can say they want to come, or not. [/quote]

There is nothing wrong with wanting to host.

However, it is very rude, whether or not it is the inlaw thing, to invite to host the exact event at your house which someone else just invited you to.

Substitute MIL with college buddies or neighbors and Christmas brunch with Superbowl Party, and you will see just how rude it was.

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I think it's very different if the person is writing to ask what plans are for the holiday.  And I think it would be the same with a friend and a Superbowl party:

[b]FRIEND:  Hey, Phil!  What are you and Sue planning to do for the Superbowl?  Sally and I were thinking of maybe having friends over for brunch or dinner.

SUE:  Hi, Ralph!  We've really enjoyed coming to your Superbowl brunches this past few years, and thanks for asking what we were doing this year.  I was actually thinking of hosting a brunch myself this year -- if you haven't finalized your plans, would you be interested in coming rather than hosting this year?

Sounds totally fine to me, and not rude at all[/b].[/quote]

Actually, that is rude.  That is usurping the original invite.  It is even more rude if the host has always hosted that event.  Bow out, but don't usurp with an invite to counter an invite.

By the way, since her inlaws are in town, it is not like OP is giving up her Christmas every year.  She is going to the traditional event at her MILs house, for what, a few hours?  She gets Christmas Eve, Christmas morning, and nearly all of Christmas afternoon.  She is giving up a couple of hours for brunch.  Not such a big deal.  If she really wants to entertain all the inlaws, invite them for cocktails and cookies on Christmas Eve.[/quote]

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