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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your problem is you're messaging-texting- calling, the process is too drawn out and only attracts lazy guys. I chat for a day or two than immediately request a casual coffee meeting. Use the chat to screen a little, make sure they aren't too sexual, rude etc.

I use online sites just to connect me with people I wouldn't have the chance to meet otherwise. I don't spend my time getting to know them online, I want to meet immediately and get a sense of who they are in person. I figure if you're to hesitant to meet me in person it's never going to work. I'm an outgoing gal and don't need someone who is insecure, shy etc.

You may meet a few weirdos but I see it as a positive, I learn exactly what I want and don't. I like meeting people in general so maybe my method isn't for anyone.[/quote]

I'm sure things have changed since I met my now DH online 8 yrs ago, but one thing that has NOT changed is that if I were dating today, the approach you suggest PP would NOT work for me.  My time is too precious and I was talking to too many people back then to switch quickly to "Let's have coffee".  Even 8 yrs ago a lot of guys wanted to meet me right off the bat, and I said no, I wanted to be sure they were worth the time and effort of meeting up.

That approach worked well for me, and the one time I allowed a guy to talk me into meeting him soon after we started writing each other, I immediately regretted it (he was gorgeous, but I knew he was nuts before his butt hit the chair at the cafe).

So OP, I think it really depends on your personality.  Evidently PPs approach worked for her, but it would not at all have worked for me.  I wanted more time online to feel people out before meeting them, and I tried to only meet guys who it seemed that, if nothing else, I'd have an interesting conversation and enjoy the evening even if there was no spark whatsoever.[/quote]

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