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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I completely understand that you don't want to go and you should see if you can avoid going but I think you are indeed overreacting. The aunt was probably inviting you to be nice to your MIL (as other pps have noted). [b]Remember, you don't even know this person so is it fair to jump to the conclusion that she is deliberately trying to make your life difficult?[/b]

Just figure out what works for you with regard to this party but don't take the invitation so personally.  Hope everything works out![/quote]

I agree with this post. OP, you're assuming that this woman is terrible, has intentionally ignored you etc. but that may not be the case. How long has it been since this aunt saw your MIL? Maybe that's occasion enough for aunt to finally have a social event and she is doing the polite thing to invite her sister's son and his wife. I've had relatives of the aunt-by-marriage variety that weren't really close enough that I expected them to reach out to me particularly. Why are you so offended by this woman when the real issue is just your own expectations are not being met?

It sounds as if you are lugging around some baggage from the fact that this aunt has never before asked your family to do anything and now she has put her event during your expected family time. Unless you sent her a schedule of "dates not to do anything where you invite your nephew, my husband," she really isn't out to ruin your weekend.

By now the party is later today. Wonder what you ended up doing. I would go to the party for an hour with husband then come home and go to the neighborhood party with the kids along. If you can't get a short-time sitter, let husband go and don't spend the whole evening carping about the fact he went to his aunt's house to make his mother happy. One hour to make her happy while she visits. Is that really reason to be this upset?

By the way, I don't see how going to the neighborhood party makes Saturday night your "family night." You say you want just family time but then mention that aunt's party conflicts with another party you want to attend. So the neighborhood party is your...family time?

And aunt is not intentionally excluding your children as a slap at you. That's being pretty self-centered to interpret this as "my children are not welcome." Surely you remember grown-up parties where no kids were present? You are taking personally things that truly are not personal and are no big deal. [/quote]

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