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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I left our home (DH's name is the only name on the deed), DH changed the locks and I had a locksmith let me in when he was out if town since he denied me access for six months.  I packed up a few things and he was, needless to say, infuriated. He called the police and a detective went to my neighbors house to investigate a "felony burglary". They never contacted me though. Yes, he tried to have the mother of his children arrested. I married a real gem. [/quote]

I'm actually surprised you found a locksmith who did that.  Most want proof that it's your home.

[b]BTW, I would have called the police too, if my ex had done that[/b]. [/quote]

Me too.  No way I would have wanted my ex in the house without me or my rep there with him.  He is the type of guy that would sabotage something or plant something out of spite.

The PP left the home and somehow thinks she should have access?  Her DH handled it wrong though.  I would have packed up her shit for her and had it on the porch - but I would raise holy hell if she came in my house if I were not present. [/quote]

It doesn't matter if DH's name is the only name on the deed.  It all depends on the circumstances.  If a married couple rents an apartment, neither owns it, one spouse can't deny another access to their belongings.  It doesn't matter if your name is the only name on the deed, when you are married, everything changes.  If the wife had lived there for a long time and paid part of the mortgage, then it is likely that would be considered community property.  Same is true if the wife were a stay at home mom and provided childcare for the kids.  No judge is going to say she has no claim to that asset or to her belongings inside of it.

People need to understand that when you get married, it's no longer "this is mine, that is yours."  There are all kinds of grey areas.

It also makes a difference when the property was acquired.  Even if the husband's name is the only name on the deed, if they purchased the house while they were married, then I think that makes a difference.  Just like separate accounts.  It doesn't matter if it's money you put into your own checking account while you're married, if it is money you earned while you were married, then, depending which state you are in, the spouse has some claim to it.  In Maryland, even pensions you earn while married are considered community property.  It doesn't matter that it's your pension in your name.

This is why so many people should just NOT get married.  They don't seem to understand what it means and why it can be such a mess if it doesn't work out.  
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