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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Male here,
I've used all three for six months now. My experience: I have met some very nice/beautiful/interesting women through all of them, however I have yet to get past one or two dates without hearing the dreaded 'you're a nice guy but they don't feel any chemistry.' Makes one question whether or not they're truly that uninteresting.

Overall, I'm not sure if its worth keeping the ads. [/quote]

Sounds like youre beta.  Youre not inspiring gut attraction in these women.  Are similar things happening to you from non-onlne dating?[/quote]

NP here.

Sounds like you, PP, are a dude. And beyond that, a dude (not a man) who doesn't understand that many women are turned off by "alpha" behavior and that "beta" men are far more likely to be happily married in stable partnerships.

And to the original PP - I posted earlier saying it only took me a few dates to meet my now-DH, but he dated 26 women before me. His assessment was that the trick to being successful was to not go into any dates with ANY expectations at all, almost to the point of not caring (but not quite). You want to come across as self-assured, confident, and not really concerned whether you get a second date (or third date) at all, like you're just out here meeting women because you enjoy it, not because you NEED a relationship/girlfriend/wife. Flipping that mental switch might be all it takes for your dates to start going further. (Also, of course, it could be the women you're dating, but we have no way of analyzing that.)[/quote]

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