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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] When I remind him of the deal we had, he replied with "Either you move in with me and we can live in here and my life will be back to what it used to be until I'm 18 or I can sell the house and seek emancipation!"
When I tried to tell him that what he's doing is wrong. He hung up.

I've tried to call him a few more times and he refused to answer.

I have never felt so lost. I just don't know what to do any more and am really afraid of what will happen.[/quote]

Your poor son!

So when he was 10 years old, you married a new guy?   New husband brought his own kids to the marriage, and you and new husband had a baby and at 10 years old, your son felt so bad with you and new husband and a bunch of new kids, that he left your house and moved in with his dad?

Things were kind of OK for 4 years, and then his dad fell for this other woman, when Gabe was 14.   He fell really hard for her, even though she didn't get along with his kid... so at that point, age 14, Gabe was dealing with a dad involved with a woman with 2 disabled kids, and a mom married to a new husband with a couple of odler kids and a 4 year old little half brother... and no one really liked him or wanted him around?

And then last summer, new girlfriend and 2 severely disabled kids move in with Gabe and his dad -- and woman wants HIM (Gabe) to be a good role model for the disabled kids and starts going through his stuff, taking him out of boxing?
Holey moley -- no wonder he's upset with her!

And his dad dies... and he wants out of the relationship with dad's girlfriend and disabled kids... I can totally understand that!

He is crying out to you for help -- he feels you abandoned him for your new husband.   What on earth was that about??  How can you let your 10 year old kid just move out of your house because he isn't getting along with your new husband AND HIS KIDS??

You need to pick up the pieces now.   He's not an adult.   He is 16.  He happens to own property, the house where he and his father lived very happily for 4 years.   New girlfriend has only been there a few months.... she should go back to wherever she was living before she moved in.   She has no connection to your son.  She is not his responsibility, and she clearly didn't care for him, but was using him for her own needs.   That's not cool.

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You're right... I moved in with my new husband when Gabe was 8 and tried to make it work a few times and it didn't go well so Gabe went to live with his father for a bit then come back a few more times before we decided he's better to stay with his father. 
I thought that he would eventually coexist with my husband and his kids. It didn't happen, Gabe was just getting worse with his behave every time he come back and his grade was suffering. Yet when he go back to his father, he was getting better.

Yes Gabe's father fell for this woman hard and we even tried to offer Gabe to come back when we noticed his father was spending less time with him. Gabe declined the offer every single times. 
We even told him if he want to move back in, he's welcome to. He didn't take the offer up. 
I never knew about this woman going through his thing and taking him out of boxing until recently. I wasn't happy about this at all and would have said something if I knew earlier.

As for Gabe's attorney friend, I've not talk to him in a few weeks. But he doesn't trust me much so he doesn't really let me get involved and kept me at distance for most part. 
However from impression I got from Gabe is, he want to sell the house ASAP. I know he want to buy a small condo in single payment and receive small allowance from his father's inherit until he's eighteen. 
I don't agree with this. I want  Gabe to move back in with me and my family but at same time I'm really afraid of what would happen if we made him move back in or he'll try to get emancipated. 
I will try talk to the attorney again next week and see what I can do.  
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