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[quote=Anonymous]OP, any chance you would qualify for financial aid at a private school?

Agree with the PP who said to try to keep the commute down too -- a long daily commute to school is so hard on the family.

Show your husband the recent research on the lasting importance of early childhood education -- there were stories about this in the last year on NPR and This American Life, and I think an op ed by Maureen Dowd in the NYT just this past weekend about how some Oklahoma billionaire did all the research and figured out that the best way to combat poverty was to invest heavily in early childhood education programs. It's interesting. The love of learning -- and the good habits associated with the love of learning -- are instilled in these early years. It may help to convince your husband that this is something to care about and invest in, whether it is paying for a private school or moving/renting in a better school district or applying to a good charter.

Also, FWIW, I had parents who did not think much about my education. We didn't have any money and we didn't live in a good school district. My sibling and I were left to fend for ourselves. I distinctly remember the experience of basically learning nothing and spending all day having to babysit and tutor kids who I now realize needed real help in the form of special education, because they were clearly developmentally delayed. I remember kids being suspended for violence. I remember teachers being scary (lots of yelling, one teacher liked to kick over desks). This lasted until I was lucky enough to test into a better school -- a teacher advocated for me to test into this other school, and it completely turned things around for me, though it still did take several years for me to become enthusiastic about learning. Not saying that my experience is what would happen to your kids in public school, or that this experience is exclusive to public schools -- there are bad teachers and adminstrators everywhere. I guess what I'm saying is that, setting aside public v. private or whatever, you are right to take this as a serious decision and to think about it, and your husband is wrong for taking the "everything will just work out - leave it alone" attitude. [/quote]

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