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You may also want to look up the importance of early childhood education and show it to your husband.  With mine, I agreed that we would reconsider public as they got older.  My main concern is that at public they would get lost in the middle.  There's emphasis on the gifted, and emphasis on the low achieving, but if your child is in the middle, they do not get as much attention. My first grader is already reading at the second grade level, has double digit addition and subtraction down, and participates in 2 after school science clubs (on top of science in school).  I know if we switch him at middle or high school, he will go into the upper level courses and he will receive encouragement to advance, even at a public school.
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This paragraph. I just can't.[/quote]

OP here and I sort of feel the way the original quoted poster feels. In Alexandria City in our district there is a strong financial and academic focus on the bottom. Test scores are down (as I mentioned, close to last in the state) so the admin is clearly focusing on bringing those up as opposed to focusing on the kids in the middle. My children are in the middle as far as I can tell. Neither gifted nor bottom. Right now they love school and I want to keep that momentum going. I fear that our zoned public will be riddled with problems from not just a resources/priority perspective, but also other disruptions like behavior issues and larger class sizes.

I want to establish a solid foundation for my kids. Not just in academics, but in their confidence levels and love of learning. I don't want them to get pushed aside while the focus is shifted to the tippy top gifted kids or the trouble makers, if that makes sense

I did look at the tuitions of our local catholic schools and they are doable for me on my own. $7k/year vs $26-$30k/year. Now the issue is whether we can get in. All of the local privates are upwards of $20k for one child.

I realize that moving to a better school district is the best solution, but it's just not something DH is willing to do. He has an easy commute now and won't sacrifice that. And we have a nice townhouse and nice neighborhood. He doesn't want to downgrade to a fixer upper for schools. I would.

But it's really nice to have the support on this board and all the helpful suggestions. Thank you![/quote]
OP -- you say you have kids in school now and they love it...so are you just expecting that your kids will soon get lost in the middle...just trying to figure out where you are now and when/how you expect to see this shift take place.
I am not in your school district so I do not have any first hand experience with your schools, and quite frankly I take DCUM reviews with a HALF grain of salt. I encourage you to take the suggestion of the other posters, who say to take a tour of the school and talk to parents of kids are in the school NOW. Please understand that commutes make a big DIFFERENCE in the life of the ENTIRE family. This is not to be taken lightly -- and not something to be dismissed lightly especially if folks are not shooting or jacking kids for their lunch money at your local school. A previous poster made a good suggestion about getting solid real world info for you and your husband to be able to look at and vet.[/quote]

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