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[quote=Anonymous]My husband and I are very similar to you and your family. I went to private, he went to public. His parents did not go to college. There was no college tours for him, although they knew enough to encourage him to go to college.  College was expected in my family, and cross country trips to explore the right one...
My husband does value education, but he wasn't sure if the cost at private school was really worth the outcome.  We tried public school - we only lasted a week, I put my foot down, and was able to find a spot in a private school (we had also just moved into the area, so that was a help with getting a spot).

That said, my husband and I have an unofficial agreement.  He controls the house decisions (what repairs/upgrades are we doing), I control the children (what extracurricular activities, what school).  We consult each other, ask for opinions, but the end decision is up to the person in charge of the subject. We each have "veto" authority if there is something we seriously don't like. This works well for us. Nothing gets stuck with no decision made.

Honestly, some private schools are not much more expensive than what you pay for daycare.  Trim a couple things - like vacations - and you may be able to afford it.

You may also want to look up the importance of early childhood education and show it to your husband.  With mine, I agreed that we would reconsider public as they got older.  My main concern is that at public they would get lost in the middle.  There's emphasis on the gifted, and emphasis on the low achieving, but if your child is in the middle, they do not get as much attention. My first grader is already reading at the second grade level, has double digit addition and subtraction down, and participates in 2 after school science clubs (on top of science in school).  I know if we switch him at middle or high school, he will go into the upper level courses and he will receive encouragement to advance, even at a public school.

I am really amazed at what they do at our private school. Violin lessons start in Junior Kindergarten, as well as exposure to artists like Georgia O'Keefe and Henri Matisse. The  principal greets everyone each morning. Every day, I see my children's teachers. If I have any comments, concerns, or questions, I can ask them when I drop my children off. [/quote]

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