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[quote=Anonymous]19:47 - I didn't mean to ask my mom for protection - what I meant was to ask her to stop asking me to put me any my family in harm's way.   Why do we have to suffer my sister's abuse so that my mom can fulfill her fantasy of "the whole family got together for Thanksgiving?"   My mom is very odd about this too - I think she is trying to prove that she made the right decisions about us growing up.  A few years ago, for my mom's birthday, she spent the week traveling to each of her 3 kids' houses.  She wore the same clothes for her pictures, so that she could put together an album and make it look like we all spent her birthday together.

I know I'm an adult, and I also know that I was given the wrong coping mechanisms as a child (I was just supposed to suck it up and take it instead of complaining).  I'm trying to rebuild them in a healthy way.  What is that healthy way?   Frankly, the idea of a few hours with my sister still gives me hives.  Sister lives about 3 hours away.

I think the right answer is to put together an alternative, fun, thanksgiving.  Start focusing on my own family instead of the generation up.  [/quote]

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