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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you think he is an alcoholic, I suggest trying Al-Anon. [/quote]

Thanks.  I probably should.  The signs are there.  It may be the worst thing I could ever have envisioned for my life.  My dad was an alcoholic and I swore I'd never marry an addict or have a child with one.  I don't know how I could have let this happen.  I can't retreat into depression and despair since I need to be present for my baby, but boy is it tempting.  I spent a lot of time in ACA dealing with my childhood.  The idea of ending up in AL Anon may be the biggest failure of my life.  My poor baby.

(I need to step away from here now.  It's all too depressing.  I've got my baby in my arms and I'm gonna try to just smell baby smell, feel baby skin, and treasure this moment rather than gazing on the wreckage of my relationship.)[/quote]

My husband is in no way an alcoholic. However, he is very much like my Father-- the type of person that I said I would never marry.

My Father is a workaholic and money hungry. My Father always chose work over fun. We never vacationed. He was always stressed about money and had to be way ahead of the game. My husband would rather work overtime than sleep. He is worried about Christmas a year from now! Some say these qualities are good but living this through out my entire childhood, even though I appreciate the life that my Father gave me, he missed so much of my childhood being at work. I have to actually point out to my husband the time he is gone and most of the time, he realizes it and will cut back. However, I am in a very similar situation as my Mother was with a very similar man.

I'm in therapy. All this to tell you that my therapist explained it so well to me: We gravitate to what we know. What we're comfortable with. I'm used to being around a disconnected, workaholic Dad. I created that same life for my children and myself-- not out of spite but out of normalcy. Does that make sense? Don't beat yourself up.

If he smells of gin each and every night, he needs an intervention![/quote]

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