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[quote=Anonymous]Adult adoptee, closed adoption.  My adoptive parents are my parents.  Period.  My mom is the woman who comforted my when I cried, fed me, took care of me when I was sick, disciplined me when I misbehaved, etc.  Finding my birthmother might provide some interesting information and perhaps even explain where some of my physical or personality traits come from, but it's not going to fundamentally change my relationship with my parents.  I agree with the PP who said that it's natural that adoptees might fantasize about their birthparents, just as non-adopted kids might fantasize that they are secretly someone else's kid (I'm really a prince/princess/wizard and my real parents are going to find me and take me away and shower me with gifts and my life will be perfect) because fantasy is always easier than real life.

I agree that the media present these "reunion" stories very poorly.  There are lots of reasons that an adopted person might want to seek out their birthparents, and most of them aren't because the adoptee wants to replace their adoptive parents.  [/quote]

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