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[quote=Anonymous]As someone whose looks are have never caused any difficulties in relationships, but is not model-hot by any standards - the appearances won't kill your relationship. Your insecurities will. Please either speak to a therapist as you said you are planning to, or do whatever you need to to get past your mother's/ex's opinions about your looks before bringing issues with them into your current relationship.

My current partner recently unloaded on me, during a fight, about how he felt deja vu. I had no idea what he was talking about.  When he explained the things his ex said to him/the way she made him feel, I was still confused. Nothing I said to him in any way resembled the things the two of them fought about, and yet here he was equating the two of us.

I don't mean to thread-hijack, what I want to say is do not bring the issues from your past relationship into your current one. If you're not over the past, you may see parallels where none exist, and leave your current partner feeling very confused and possibly a bit 'thrown under the bus' for the sins of the previous partner. I know for myself that this one exchange with my SO left me wondering whether he was in fact over his ex/healthy enough for a new relationship. That's my issue to contend with, but if you like this guy enough, try to avoid it being his. [/quote]

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