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[quote=Anonymous]It sounds like you have some growing up to do, OP. I'm sorry if this sounds hurtful to you, but you are going to continue to be hurt by your father's behavior if you are unable to step back from the situation and look at it objectively. You are emotionally enmeshed in your desire for a different father, and until you let go of your fantasy, you will continue to be in pain.

Your father's cursing at you sounds like typical behavior for him. On the one hand he's giving you land, and on the other hand he's treating you disrespectfully by cursing at you. He clearly does not know how to be the loving father you want him to be, yet at the same time he feels he has an obligation to support you, which may be his way of expressing love. It's not what you want, but you'll have to grow up and accept that he is not going to change.

Appreciate whatever you can about your father (did he pay for your education? did he pay your bills when you were growing up? does he continue to support your mother financially?), and let go of everything else.

My father was impossible, but I loved him for his good qualities, few as they were. That's how I managed to get rid of my anger and disappointment that he wasn't the father I needed. You have to let go, OP, else you'll waste even more energy on a fantasy that will never be real. [/quote]

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