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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sometimes you have to draw your own boundaries.  If it were me I'd say something along the lines of 'we can't travel to both families each year so will be alternating, but would love to have you come see us here in DC' and let the chips fall where they will.  If that means kids don't get presents from that set of grandparents, oh well - I'm sure they'll have plenty more.

And my answer might be different if the other half of the family made more effort.  I am willing to make a lot of effort to see various parts of our family because the effort is returned - my parents would routinely drive to visit when we lived 5 hours away, and for Thanksgiving will be making their 3rd trip to come see us since we moved a plane flight away in January (plus I brought the kids to them for a long visit in the summer.)

I realize we're lucky in that they are retired and have both the time and money to be able to make that work.  But still - the point is that if DH's family really wanted to see you, they could make the effort to travel, it shouldn't always be you.[/quote]

Many, many, many couples alternate holidays.  There is nothing odd about doing so.  The fact that your husband's family won't travel to see you in no way obligates you to travel to see them.  Tell them that you will travel to them every other year, just as you travel to your family every other year.  [/quote]

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