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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Good grief, that is insane, OP! I would talk to DH about cutting back on all the trips year-round. Figure out which one's matter most and cut back on others...set a rough total of trips you are willing to make a year--4 to 6 sounds like plenty if you are up for a whole weekend.

Start with Mother's Day. Send MIL flowers, and enjoy that weekend as you wish.[/quote]

I'm surprised by these responses. We normally visit at least once a month, but it does seem excessive to us. I assumed once a month was normal for closer family? Traffic is really bad to get to them. We feel guilt tripped to see them mainly because it's not their fault that we moved away.[/quote]

But you didn't do anything "to" them by moving away, that's the thing. You have a right to live your lives as you wish, and you don't have to make it up to them, but rather do what works for the situation you are now in. I would go nuts if I had to spend a weekend with my ILs every month. Even if I liked them more than I do, that is 25% of my weekend time. No way--my time with just DH and DS, not to mention fitting time in with friends, plus all we have to accomplish on the weekends as two working parents...a weekend a month with anyone even if I enjoyed it would be too much. You can set some boundaries here.[/quote]

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