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[quote=Anonymous]Sorry to be so [i]blunt[/i] about your situation OP, but you + your parents are being [b]Enablers[/b] toward your sister.
By bailing her out all the time, you all are not doing her any favors.

She is learning from your family that when times are tough, she can always cry to Mommy, Daddy or Lil' Sis and they will come running to rescue her. She is not learning to be [u]accountable[/u] at all for [i]any[/i] of her actions in life and thinks there is always going to be a safety net especially waiting just for her.

As hard as it may be to do, I strongly suggest that Yes, you practice "Tough Love." To the maximum.

Your sister is very immature, spoiled and selfish.
She needs to learn that in life we all ARE accountable for our actions. No one gets a free pass just because they think they deserve one.

Your parents need to cut themselves off from her as do you.

If she gets angry at the family and refuses to speak to you all, then do not let her blackmail you into changing your minds. She may even threaten to prevent you all from having any type of relationship w/her children unless you help her. If that is the case, do not give in to her demands.

Let her know that you are sorry for her situation, but that you have your own life to live and your own issues to deal w/. and that she needs to learn how to deal w/her life the same way that you and everyone else has to.
Tell her that you [i]love[/i] her and that this has nothing to do w/love.

You just need to focus on your own life a little more now.

As do your parents.

Good luck. Hope this helps.  :? [/quote]

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