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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I started a new job 3 weeks ago. I recieve 10 days of paid vacation every year.
My plan was to use 3 or 4 days over Christmas, another 5 days in June to visit my fiance's family in NY and 2 days as "just in case" time.
My younger cousin (21) called tonight and asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding in July in Michigan.
I don't want to disappoint her as she doesn't have many friends and she was desperate enough to ask me (I'm 12 years older than her and haven't seen her in 3 years).
I have a few concerns.
1. The NY trip is non-negotiable. [b]I love my fiance's family and have a blast on this trip every year.[/b]
2. I don't want to take vacation time so close together-especially with a job I just started.
3. [b]Soooo much money[/b].
4. I am not very close with most of my family members who will be at this wedding (poor life choices, alcoholism, etc.)
5. [b]I would have to spend a chunk of my free-time running around doing wedding stuff.
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Do I buy her a killer gift or make it happen? What would you do? [/quote

you sound like a grade A jerk, OP. Clearly, you don't feel like doing a kind deed for your cousin. You don't respect her. You don't even like her...(desperate enough to ask you? What a horrible thing to say.)

Definitely decline. Your cousin deserves better than you. [/quote]

Is your life such shit that you make ridiculous assumptions about a stranger based on a few sentences?
You know me so well?  Go f**k yourself, you pathetic c**t.[/quote][/quote]

Wow, classy, OP.  Sounds like this poster struck a nerve.

Listen, you don't need anyone's permission to decline.  You obviously don't want to do it, so why ask here what others think?  Just say no.

If you are legitimately asking for opinions, while I wouldn't say it as harshly as the PP, I agree with the sentiment.  Kindness is always a good idea.  IT's not like this cousin has screwed you over or something.  She asked you to be in her wedding.  That means something.  However, you don't see it that way.  Quit making excuses and just admit you don't want to do it for your own reasons, not because of your vacation days and blah blah blah.  Just decline so your cousin can move on.
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