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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]10/20/2013 09:16 Subject: Are you friends with your mother? Anonymous Anonymous wrote: This is so very, very sad. I wonder how you will all feel some day when your kids are treating and saying the same things about you? Well, we all have things we wonder about. For instance, at the moment, I'm wondering if you're intentionally or un-intentionally mean. But that's my burden in life for the next two seconds or so until I press "submit." [/quote] No. I have just seen this situation played out too many time. Thus, I worked to change my relationship with my own mother recognizing that is the "reality" that my kids will see as the way to treat their parents. It really is that simple. We all think that we are such great parents and hopefully we are better parents than our parents were, but the reality is that our kids will find fault in the things that we do. Times will change, parenting will change, expectations will change and they will indeed judge us. I think it is better to model forgiveness and understanding than hatred and judgment. [/quote] What a buffoon you are. My mother did not pay any attention to me, did not care for me. I was kicked out of the house at a very young age. When she did pay attention it was to hurt me, physically or emotionally. She beat me, burned me with her cigarettes. She never washed my clothes, kissed a skinned knee, or held my hand to cross a street. She never worked, but rather spent her time at bars, playing bingo, or otherwise out with her "friends." She had a parade of men through the house at all times, and some of them molested me. Tell me again how I should work to change my relationship with my mother so that my kids will treat me the way I treat her? And how it "really is that simple?" To the PP, I think we have the answer: intentionally mean. But hey, maybe she was an abusive mom and feels like if she models loving kindness to her OWN abusive mom, all will be forgiven by her own kids? [/quote]
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