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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]OP here. Thanks everyone for your responses. The problem is the grandparents' lack of interest in building a relationship with/getting to know my DC. I'm willing to help facilitate the process, and I have tried by offering to do the traveling, inviting grandparents to my home, but there is always some other "priority" that trumps the plans.

[b]Grandparents are always watching out for sister's kids -- free, regular babysitting, school supplies, clothes, etc when needed, toys when asked, and the list goes on.[/b] I know this because grandparents tell me -- not to rub in face, but as a matter of fact. I hardly get a "how is DC doing?"

Perhaps favoritism is the wrong word here, but it's SOMETHING that's a sore spot for me. What does time and distance have to do with at least showing some interest in DC's existence?
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As you can see, I am quite bitter about this[/b]. [/quote]

What exactly are you bitter about? Because, frankly, from this post, it sounds like you are more concerned with the free gifts over the grandparents getting to know your DC.

Is that really the issue?[/quote

Whether it's gifts or time or help, this issue is ALWAYS about the parent(s), and not the grandchildren.  The grandchildren don't know what they are missing. The parents know enough to be jealous, though.

My MIL and FIL really don't care about any of their grandkids. They're just not interested in a relationship. My parents are dead. My kids are effectively without grandparents. They just don't have that relationship. We've substituted close relationships with my brothers. The kids adore their uncles. It works for us.

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