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[quote=Anonymous][quote]I started a new job 3 weeks ago. I recieve 10 days of paid vacation every year.
My plan was to use 3 or 4 days over Christmas, another 5 days in June to visit my fiance's family in NY and 2 days as "just in case" time.
My younger cousin (21) called tonight and asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding in July in Michigan.
I don't want to disappoint her as she doesn't have many friends and she was desperate enough to ask me (I'm 12 years older than her and haven't seen her in 3 years).
I have a few concerns.
1. The NY trip is non-negotiable. [b]I love my fiance's family and have a blast on this trip every year.[/b]
2. I don't want to take vacation time so close together-especially with a job I just started.
3. [b]Soooo much money[/b].
4. I am not very close with most of my family members who will be at this wedding (poor life choices, alcoholism, etc.)
5. [b]I would have to spend a chunk of my free-time running around doing wedding stuff.
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Do I buy her a killer gift or make it happen? What would you do? [/quote]

you sound like a grade A jerk, OP. Clearly, you don't feel like doing a kind deed for your cousin. You don't respect her. You don't even like her...(desperate enough to ask you? What a horrible thing to say.)

Definitely decline. Your cousin deserves better than you. [/quote]

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