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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]From what you describe, OP, it does sound as if there is favoritism. 
You mention there have been fights about this in the past: have the grandparents acknowledged the issue at all? Are they in denial?[/quote]

Grandparents are in complete denial. Each time I try to broach the subject, grandparents get defensive, blame me, make excuses. So I've given up on the idea of resolving the matter. [b]DC is too young[/b] to know what's going on, and maybe he will not miss something he never had in the first place, but I'm learning how important it is for children to be surrounded with as much love as possible from many sources, not just from parents. Plus, since I don't feel good about the situation, my relationship with grandparents is negatively affected. This has also created a wedge in my relationship with sister.[/quote]

I'm sorry OP.  How old is your son?  Could it be that your parents are better with older children?  My father is like this, doesn't get babies at all and complains about the baby's schedule, need for naps/consistent bedtime.  My son is now a toddler and things are going a lot better with his grandpa who likes to play with him and engage.  
Meanwhile my ILs are much like your situation and often can't visit (though they live 2 hours away) because they're constantly babysitting for their other grandchildren.  It's definitely difficult.

When you're feeling calm and level headed, I would ask your parents to consider visiting a few times a year because you would love to see them develop a closer relationship with your child, as you can see they have with their other grandchildren.  Maybe offer to help pay for the trip in case that is a problem for them.[/quote]

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