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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She doesn't give me the money....I give her what I have and she writes the check and gives it to my landlord which is also far more involvement then I wanted her to have. Whenever I try to have her step back and do things myself she always becomes to invasive and steps ion and controls and gets mad when things don't go exactly her way which causes conflicts. I never wanted  my landlord to even know she's helping me with my rent and now every little thing she's involved....[/quote]

If she's supplying the money, she has a right to be involved.  Sorry, that is how it works.  Sounds like you just want to take advantage of your grandmother.  You're going to make a great nurse :roll:[/quote]

Look, I'm not taking advantage of her. At any times I give her and the rest of my family what I can but since I lost my full time job I can't....Since the age of 16  I've always been willing to get up off my ass and work. While me and my grandmother have our differences this is why she helps me also because I have no one else. She knows in a heartbeat I'm willing to work 3+ jobs to make ends meet but this time around I can't find anything.

I wish you would take your negative ass off my post because you know nothing of what you're talking about. [/quote]

Dear OP:

Please ignore the nasty posters.  That may be your weakness, actually--letting what people say offhand really affect you.  If you let these anonymous fools who populate a forum that is known for saying things like, "Divorce him, it's hopeless," "He should divorce you, you're hopeless," or (I really like this one) "Well, that doesn't happen to me, because I'm not a moron like you," then I can begin to wonder how stray, irritated comments from your old granny would affect you.

I feel for our situation.  When I was your age, the economy was doing so much better.  A 23 year old, healthy young adult with a work ethic could find full-time work, and make ends meet.  It would be a small apartment and you wouldn't have a booze budget, but hey! those jobs that let you get by without family or outside help were there to be had.

Those days are gone.  Kids are living with their parents, and getting subsidized out of desperation.  The PP's who have no sympathy for you are shitbags, IMO.

Tough times toughen you up.  A good start is to develop a thicker skin and not let what your granny says bother you too much.  Just smile and let it run down your shoulders.  I mean, some women are trapped in abusive marriages where they get *physically beat up* for the same reasons you state--financial support that they need.  Thank your stars that your supporter only says unkind things, and isn't a 200 pound man who gives you black eyes and breaks fingers in exchange for money.

So, take granny's shit, develop a strong sense of self-worth and self-esteem no matter what she says ("granny says I'm an unemployed loser, but what does she know, I'll finish this degree and find a great job, and then I'll show her!"), get that nursing degree, and start making bank!  You will look back on these desperate days and laugh and glad you pulled through.

Don't drop out.  Assholes who say you should probably are the type of people who would be joyful if further calamity happened upon you.

Be nice to granny, suck up to her, tell her you WILL be a success, get as much money out of her as you possibly can and invest it in your education (what does she need it for anyway), finish that nursing degree, get a good job, keep your legs closed and stay away from loser guys, and then pay back granny (with interest) and take care of her when her eyesight eventually fails and she breaks her hip or something.

Got it?[/quote]

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