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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your wife sounds like me. I am lazy and tired and unmotivated and uninterested in being productive.  I don't know if it is depression or just inability to retain thigs and take action. My life feels hard and overwhelming even thought I'm a stay home mom that does nothing.  [/quote]

That is me too.  I feel so useless.[/quote]

It happens with us WOHMs as well. I have a well developed external structure because I get depressed and mired down in "what to do next." My calendar tells me what to do next. I may not do it well, I may forget some elements of it (forgot the water bottle at home but got the kid to hockey), but the external structure forces me into some level of functionality. Without it, I am completely overwhelmed and see little possibility of figuring out how to get out of it.

Get your wife to the doctor. Start by ruling out physical medical problems and move on to psychiatric. Has she always been this way? Is this a change in behavior?

If your child is old enough to go camping without a parent, the child is old enough to be involved in packing the gear. Should be involved in packing the gear, because otherwise how will he know what is where when he gets to the campsite? Yes, parents should help him remember everything, but he should have a packing list & he should be doing it.

Talk with your wife about what might help her. Would a well constructed calendar help? A careful schedule with things like eating and exercise as an explicit part of it? Active support from you (a phone call at lunch checking in and reminding her to go for a walk after lunch, etc)?

Good luck.[/quote]

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