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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I was where you are now. I was in a very bad marriage in my 20s, went through 4 years of therapy trying to save the marriage and through the divorce, and was single again at 31 knowing that I wanted a family. I grew so much through that experience and in therapy worked through so much about my upbringing and choices and behavior.

But still I am realizing now that I let my desire to have a family drive my decisions too much back then. I remarried at 34 a guy who was great on paper- smart, interesting, handsome, successful, wanted a family, seemed emotionally stable- and I went way too fast. We were married 10 months after we met and had 2 kids within the next 2 years. I rationalized away a few things such as lackluster sex and a tendency to carry a balance on his credit cards which have now, 7 years later, landed us in a financial disaster and sexless marriage. I wish I had focused more on trusting myself completely than on beating my biological clock.

So be careful not to jump in too quickly in your desire for a family, and wait for a real, complete love![/quote]

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