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[quote=Anonymous]Ns can wreak a lot of havoc on relationships. I am the PP with the N-dad.

I didn't really address the interpersonal problems that surround Ns in the previous posts.

I agree with the other PPs who cite the black/white, good/evil thinking of the N. Moreover, how they define good and evil is about *them.* If an N makes you the bad guy, it is because it serves them. Thus you can never get out of that spot. You can always be trying to show them it isn't true, you love them, you mean well, you are a human too etc. etc. and they will never see it, because it isn't about you. It suits them that you be that bad guy, the end. really ruthless, really corrosive and harmful, especially in a family.

But of course then they go to other people telling them you are evil and/or deficient in whatever ways. Lovely quality in your near and dear.

Ns have acolytes/minions that cater to them and will act as proxies for the narcissist in order to win favor from their idol.  The faces changes but the role stays the same. They willingly serve as instruments of the dysfunctional will of the N, which does suit the N just fine, not that the N will be grateful for it. But they accept the offering.

N is imo, the best thing to do if you are related to an N, is to protect yourself. Limit the Ns access to you, and to information about you. Don't be one of their flying monkeys. Understand the quest for approval is a weakness. Present a strong front, and have good back up to cover your back against betrayal.[/quote]

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