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[quote=Anonymous]I know this is old, but just want to offer some advice about dealing with an ugly/uncooperative ex when you have no family support.

Understand that while you can't control what your ex does, you can fortify yourself and your situation. Develop a roster of reliable sitters whom your son likes, preferably caregivers he already knows, and call on them when your ex flakes. If you're going to travel, don't rely on your ex to do childcare. Have backup even if your ex has agreed to have your son stay over.

These things will get easier, though not necessarily less expensive, as your child gets older. My daughter is ten now, and while her dad is still as big a putz as ever (do I really have to sic child support enforcement on him? yes), through her girl scout troop, activities, and school we have a lot of families we can call on for random overnights and help here and there.

For your own sanity, be firm, and don't put up with his childishness. Is it fair? No. I content myself with thoughts of the singing telegram I plan to send when my daughter turns 18. "Free at last, free at last, thank God almighty...." they should get that far before he slams the door, and it'll be worth. every. penny.[/quote]

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