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[quote=Anonymous]NP here. I have dated two sociopaths in my life. Both were short-lived relationships, thankfully, but they both scarred me in their own ways. Reading the Martha Stout book, a few years after the end of the second relationship, was very freeing for me. Sociopaths are not normal people, or even just people with emotional issues. They are fundamentally different from normal human beings and cannot be reformed. The only way to deal with a sociopath is to steer clear. Learning how to spot a sociopath is helpful because it will help you avoid them in the future. Obviously there was something about me -- a vulnerability that most people couldn't see, but they could -- that drew these two individuals to me and made them think I was an easy mark. And I was, because I didn't know that there were people who were this amoral.

You did nothing wrong, OP. The complicating factor here is that your STBX is still the father of your children and because of that you will have to deal with him for the foreseeable future. I do not envy you that. He will continue to try to fuck with you because that is what sociopaths do. I would personally find healing difficult in that type of situation. You need to show him that you are strong and just not engage with his bullshit. If he can't get a reaction from you, he will move on to someone else. Sociopaths fuck with people because they find it fun to stir shit and get people upset. If you don't give him the satisfaction, he will hopefully move on to the next unfortunate someone to get the reaction he is looking for. I would be most worried about your kids. They are not old enough to understand sociopathy or know how to protect themselves. [/quote]

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