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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom is like this, always has been. One of the most anxious people ever. She is afraid of silence. SHe will talk to herself if no one else is around. I grew up wondering why my mom muttered to herself constantly, a stream of never ending thoughts, anxieties, etc. When she's not in a terribly anxious mood, she just chatters about this or that, her telling a story leads to a series of long, pointless detours about people we don' know, events we don't care about etc, she cannot get to the EFFIN POINT. Once, we drove 45 min from the airport and I decided to see if she would notice if I didn't say anything. She talked the ENTIRE TIME without pause, and without recognizing that she was on send and not receive. DH and I just looked at each other and I almost started laughing it was so freaking weird.

When she is more anxious, the talking becomes questioning or a series of bizarre anxious worries that we then have to deal with ( from killer bees and the dogs next door mauling our child, to what she assumes is a ton of crime at our school because of   the high number of FARMS to she's convinced she has cancer, etc) and that is exhausting and demoralizing.  I have developed an ability to pretend to listen "uh uh, uh uh" while doing other things, but it drives DH batty and he gets short with her, then she gets hurt and talks to me about how rude DH is. I feel for him, but he hasn't developed the same protective measures I have. Really, I try to ignore it. Also, sometimes it helps when I ask her things about herself--she is at least more focused. And take lots of breaks.  She has alienated many, many people due to her incessant anxiety and worry, which makes her lonely, which increases her anxiety, etc. Its sad, I cope, but at a certain point, gotta set boundaries. 
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