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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP back - APS went out apparently in the last day or so - I got an angry text from my aunt. I haven't responded or talked to them since I'm at work. I will update you all when I do.

Your kind words mean a lot. Thank you.[/quote]

OP, keep updating. Don't know you but know others in this situation and it's painful.

The fact that Aunt sent an "angry" text indicates she is not on board with involving outsiders. Not sure if Aunt maybe lives with your mother or "looks after" her at times to the best of her ability, or if your mother just vented to your aunt, but if you can get your aunt to see that outside help is needed that could help convince your mom too. But you have to proceed no matter what -- your mom needs professional help of so many kinds. As others note, consider getting yourself an attorney who is experienced in helping relatives get powers of attorney in cases like this one. A court may need to declare your mother incompetent to care for herself, which is sad but probably necessary for you to help her against her will.

OP, be prepared; steel yourself for some relatives or old friends of your mother's to lash out at you (or talk about you behind your back), saying you are a terrible child or are out to get hold of mom's house or mom's assets. Unfortunately I've seen this happen too -- accusations and anger against the person who dares to reach out and involve social services, or who works to get someone into nursing home care. You have to be strong and prepared for that kind of thing. I truly hope it doesn't happen to you but it's best to ready yourself for it anyway -- and if it never comes, how wonderful. [/quote]

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