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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Then their attitude sucks as well.
Why bother marrying someone with kids if you think like this.
It is not a competition, it is about relationships. Do you feel this way about adoption vs biological kids??[/quote]

Unfortunately I didn't realize what it was all about. Too late now; I will never be mean or unfriendly to my stepdaughter, but I never miss her, so to speak. 
I would never adopt, but it's not my place to judge others who do.[/quote]

I'm with you!  It is about relationships and a relationship with bio is always going to be different than a relationship with step.  In my case, my husband has very little say in how his sons are raised - he sees them every other weekend.  Their mom decides their clothes, after school activities, what they eat, tv time, etc.  They have good manners, but I disagree with them watching tv in their rooms, playing video games for so long, refusing to eat certain foods, not doing chores - and making them follow our rules 4 days of each month is not enough.  Clearly, we are going to have a different relationship with our child than with my husband's two sons.  I can only assume when it is time for grandchildren the relationship will be similarly different.

OP - this doesn't mean that your dad should be able to just follow his wife's lead.  He should want to spend time with his grand kids.  [/quote]
Yes  it is about relationships, and yes it will be different. However, that doesn't mean a step parent who is involved with her step grandkids is going to drop them like a hot potato because the biological grandkids are now 1st place. All this depends on the relationships that have been developed.
If step-grandmom has been close to the kids, then it is likely what is probably going on is baby newness, which could easily happen with bio grandkids.
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