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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Then their attitude sucks as well.
Why bother marrying someone with kids if you think like this.
It is not a competition, it is about relationships. Do you feel this way about adoption vs biological kids??[/quote]

why bother? Because, presumably, there were no men wo kids that wer equially desirable. A vast majority of women prefers to marry men wo kids, but it doesnt always work that wAy.[/quote]

I did not plan to marry a man with kids either, but it turned out that way for me also. But that is ok, it was watching him parent that helped me fall in in love with him and showed me the type of parent he would be when we had kids.
I understand that step-parenting is hard (understatement) but it seems that some folks have the attitude that having to do so is like an honorable mention, last place award when it comes to the type of marriage and family that they desired.
Step-parenting can be a wonderful classroom that grow you and show you the type of parent, spouse, and person of character that you can be beyond what you thought you could be and beyond the narrow definition of what you thought wanted out of life.
A lot of folks are assuming that a step-parent is going to drop the bonus (that's what I call it) step-kids and grandbabies when the biological kids and grand kids are around.
What a sad commentary, though I know a lot of folks have had this experience.
All relationships are work, no need to compare bio to step. If there are problems, issues in the relationship, try to have a conversation and work it through. So often we assume we know what is going on with the other person, and we miss the mark.[/quote]

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