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[quote=Anonymous]OP, as a reformed procrastinator/serial late-arriver I can tell you from experience that nothing but consequences will change your husband's behavior. Psychology Today did a great article about this...essentially there's no real value in him changing his behavior because there's no adverse result. Yes you guys fight, and that's probably unpleasant, but he still gets a ride, catches the flight, etc. I can tell you the only thing that changed my behavior was having a baby. I just couldn't cut corners anymore with scheduling, commutes, etc., and I actually had to take a good hard look at my behavior and realize how dysfunctional it was. Now, I pay a lot of attention to how long it takes me to get us out the door...a long time! Way more than I'd budget if someone asked me to verbalize it in the abstract. Without baby, I'd still be that person running through the airport in her stocking feet trying to catch the flight.

He will resist the change, because this pushes him out of his comfort zone. And yes, it will involve leaving him at home because he doesn't expect you to make good on the threat of leaving without him. But it will shift the situation, which is what you need. Fwiw I am so much happier not rushing around in life anymore. Who knew having time to sit and have a pre-flight cup of coffee could be so relaxing? Good luck, and here's the article: http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200908/escape-artists[/quote]

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