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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like your stepson resents you and the baby.  In my opinion, those are two perfectly logical and natural reactions.  I would feel the same way if my parents divorced and remarried.  Unfortunately, you get baggage in second marriages, and there really is not much you can do about it but try to live with it.  The stepson is obviously troubled and should not be enabled, however, your husband is his father.  Think about how you feel about your child.  That's how your DH feels about his child.[/quote]

He does resent us, and I do have empathy for that emotion.  I would have had a really, really hard time if my dad had gotten remarried and had a baby after I was grown.  That really is pretty much the only thing keeping me cordial and making me at least give overtures of welcome to him.  I also have empathy for the fact that he was raised to be this entitled.  It's not his fault that his parents competed for him by seeing who could spoil him more.  And having a hurt baby in the hospital does make me better understand the impulse to never, ever want your kid to be in any kind of pain or discomfort.  Seeing how much having everything given to him has crippled this kid emotionally, though, makes me even more determined to try not to absorb every bump or stress in my kid's life.  I do have a better understanding of why it's so hard to say no, though.[/quote]

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