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[quote=Anonymous]It sounds to me like the OP and the others agreeing with the OP take issue with the WAY a person became a single parent - like it's only legitimate to be a single parent if it happened somehow against the person's will - or else with the level of complaining that that person does as a result of their various challenges. I am totally sympathetic to being annoyed by and dismissive of whiners, especially performative whiners who feel compelled to complain about their kids on Facebook or whatever. But the former? That's just not fair. A person can still be stressed out and overwhelmed by situations of their own choosing, whether those situations be related to their kids, their parents, their spouses, their friends, their jobs, whatever.

I'm divorced and I have a 4 year old. We have 50/50 custody, but when something goes off the rails, I am always the one putting it back together. I am responsible for all the doctor's appointments. I pick out and sign up for any extracurricular activities. I am the one who is and has been dealing with everything related to the DC preschool lotteries. If I had an actual emergency, was in the hospital, had to fly to take care of my mom because of illness or something, DD's dad would probably step up. He loves her and while he's not as involved as I wanted him to be (one of the many reasons we got divorced a year and a half ago), he's a not a terrible dad. But the fact that he would be around in a me-related emergency doesn't make it any less irritating and stressful when he forgets that he has to take her to a doctor's appointment and never remembers when her ballet class is. Those things can obviously happen to married people too, but when you're divorced from the person who's dropping the ball, there are a limited number of things you can do about the situation. Most of the time, you have to just suck it up, vent to your trust friends (or FAMILY - OP, does your sister know how you feel about her?), and get on with the show.[/quote]

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