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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Grrr. People like this tick me off. We once pulled out of a planned out of a planned nannyshare with friends because they wanted to be able to send their kid even if was sick with a high fever or contagious disease. Their theory? Just let both kids get sick at the same time and get it over with. 
Umm. No. 
Anyway, agree with pps who suggested calling before a visit for a health check in status. I'd also put the relative on notices gently but firmly by saying something "I know sometimes Larla comes over when she's a little under the weather. However, kids being kids, this makes dd sick too, which is something I know we both want to avoid. So I figured I'd check in to see if Larla is feeling up to a visit on Saturday."
If the kid is sick, resked the visit. If the mom lies and brings sick kid, pull her aside and let her know you're cutting visit short for the aforementioned reasons. [/quote]

The SIL/mom is going to lie, I think.

Since another SIL is involved: Does she agree with you that the third mom in this triangle is being irresponsible here? Is she as mad as you are? If so, enlist her. BOTH of you need to talk to this mom and just lay it out there: Tell her that you spoke to your pediatrician about fevers and that merely masking symptoms with meds that lower fever does not mean the child is fine to visit. In fact, ask your ped to give you an article that says just that -- doctors will do that sort of thing to help you out, I've found! THen you and other SIL together tell her how concerned you are that her girl is so often ill and you will all commit to check with each other before each visit.

It's possible that she is so invested in these visits that she doesn't want to miss them but she needs a reality check. I hate parents who send sick kids to school like she does.[/quote]

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