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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How many employers are going to give the ADHD employer extra time to do the work?[/quote]

I work with multiple ADHD workers and their ability to hyper focus and see the whole picture is amazing. I rather wait another day for their work product than get it on time from another worker who is less creative.

I work with Engineers, computer programers, computer architects, etc. They are amazing. Their abilities are always a plus in our organization.

When I found out my son was dyslexic and I missed a couple of days at work I finally just said to my team... OMG! I am sorry, my son is dyslexic and I am freaking out.

Each and everyone of them - these are extremly high paid engineers - came to me and told me a story of how they struggled in some way at school... dyslexia, ADHD, anxieties, tics, etc.

School is not work and work is not school. I have yet to sit my staff down and give them a multiple choice test and ask them to fill out little bubbles. They all found their interest and they are super successful.

My son is entering HS and the difference from 3rd grade to now is astounding. He still struggles with things here an there but I can't believe some nights what he CAN do that I thought in 3rd grade he would never do.

The best thing I did was get help. I got help from ASDEC. Their advocates helped me every step of the way in finding tools to help my son be successful. Dragon dictate, making lists, listing HW assignments and putting a time estimate after it to plan, a model for writing reports that other kids don't normally use.

Kids with LD's have self esteem issues. Find something that helps with his self esteem, something he is good at. It is hard to every day have teachers/tests/school tell you that you are not good enough and then believe it in your soul.

[b]To the professor, if you ever have a student like that again, please give her some resourses to learn how to properly advocate for herself. Every college has a department that understands disabilities and can guide students to ask for the right accomodations without making excuses. Not everybody was given the gift of years of learning how to properly advocate. She seemed frustrated, it seems to me she could have been successful with the right help.[/b]  [/quote]

It was this exact attitude that caused her to unsuccessful - that her success was entirely dependent on other people doing the right thing. She had a multiple of services and supports accessible to her and she was well connected to the department that provides support to students with disabilities. Her problem was that she externalized all responsibility for her success - just as you have - if only others had gotten her different/ better help then she  would have been successful. The reality is that if only she had utilized the help and resources she had and looked at what she needed to do - she would have been successful. There will always be people who externalize all responsibility for their success on others and others who have a sense of agency and who work with those around them and the services they have to be successful. Given I was being accused of discrimination weekly by her whenever I didn't make her successful. By partway through the course  I was not in a position to do anything to assist her other than , I wasn't even allowed to speak to her without a witness present.

the attitude you have that it was my responsibility and not hers to make her successful is not a good one for you to pass along to your son. Teach him to self-advocate and to have a sense of agency that he can be successful by his actions (and accessing what he needs) and that it isn't other people's responsibility to make sure he does well. [/quote]

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