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[quote=Anonymous]Yes, as 15:26 said we all have a tendency to revert back to our childhood roles when around our families of origin. And this can be stressful when dealing with inlaws. OP, one of the things that helped us several years ago was to get very firm on boundaries. This followed years of post visit arguments over stuff his family did (trying to "save" our souls, obnoxious older BIL who would pick verbal fights) and my husband's reluctance to address these issues head on as they occurred. We decided that we needed to stand firm as a couple and let family know what is and is not acceptable behavior. And as a spouse I let DH know that I wouldn't make anymore trips if I continued to feel as if he didn't have my back. It has meant seeing family less and for much shorter visits and not seeing some family members at all. However those changes are well worth the peace.[/quote]
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