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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He is saving money, growing  equity in his rentals, and has already had the sweat deal for awhile.
50/50 at minimum since he makes more.I'd recalculate all the expenses from the time he moved in- except the house repairs.
I'd be more worried about him not caring enough to offer to pay more specially if you are nice frugal lady and he makes 3X more. He should appreciate the frugality since he clearly likes/wants/saves money-rentals and all.Are you sure he loves you and wants to marry you? 
He is blind as a bat.[/quote]

He wants to be with me, but marriage, not sure, I know he does not ever want to split his stuff he worked for with anyone if it were to end and wants a pre-nup for his houses.  I would never do that, unless of course he was cheating then all rules go out the window. [/quote]

Ok OP. Assuming you still want to marry this guy, WHICH I THINK IS A TERRIBLE IDEA:

A pre-nup is absolutely essential. He wants to protect his property. You have property and children to protect as well. However, when you are married, you will either need to buy a 4th house as marital property, or you will need to live in one of the 3 homes you already own between the two of you and divide all of the expenses related to that home equally between the two of you, since he is unwilling to comingle finances with you.

Even typing that, I feel sick for you. This is not the sort of relationship you want - a man who is unwilling to support you when times are tough (which they are, if you have to wait for one check to clear before writing another one), who does not consider your children worthy of his support. You are talking about what is "fair and agreeable" to everyone, but really, what you mean is "fair and agreeable" to him and minimally acceptable for you.

Expect more of yourself. You deserve a partner who acts like a partner. This is not that person.[/quote]

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