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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A vent and a question.

What one issue strains your adult relationship with your mom?

For me it is that I cannot maintain her level of clutter free, perfect looking housekeeping. I definitely know that my tolerance for some clutter stems from a childhood of super strict no clutter anywhere vigilance by my mom.  We spend time at her beach house in the summer with extended family with lots of people around.  I do a lot of the cooking, grocery shopping, bringing chairs, snacks/supplies to the beach, all of the hard core cleaning on the main floor I work to maintain no clutter (bathroom cleaning, mopping floors), beach towel laundry, etc. Upstairs, my 3 children share a room and occasionally, the room can looked "lived in". We make the beds and I do laundry just about every day but sometimes life takes over and we get some clutter. If it doesn't look like a hotel room, my mom freaks and makes me feel like a failure-in spite of everything else that I do in the house. We go back and forth on this and I know the answer is to just maintain her standards in her house. I get it-on my way to fully hotel-ize the upstairs and I will apologize and thank her again for use of the beach house.

Just wondering, does anyone else have these revolving door issues that never go away?

This issue seems silly, and I guess we are lucky that this is the issue. We have healthy kids, productive careers, good marriages and do spend a lot of happy time together as an extended family. But she really got me this time.

Thanks for the vent, no advice needed, I know that clutter can be my Achille's heel and I know what to do to fix it.  [/quote]

Ask her if she'd like to come to your own house and demonstrate perfect housekeeping. Hand her a mop, bucket, dustrags, bathroom cleaner, etc. Say you are very dense and really need her to show you even it takes a few hours out of your day, but you absolutely MUST learn from an exemplary housekeeper such as herself and you are so afraid you will never be as good as she is. If she takes you up on the offer, let her at it and thank her for the free cleaning service.  :-)[/quote]

PP here. I've begun doing this with my own mother when I realized I'd have to be crazy to fight with someone over who can use a toilet brush or mop better. If you want to show your superior cleaning skills, more power to you. Next time my mother makes a peep about dust or whatever in my home, she can get to work and show me how it's done. [/quote]

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